silver lining

I'm not those girls.

Who has a gorgeous smile.
Who has a stunning face.
Who has super long shiny hair.
Who has a perfect body.
Who attracts every guys eye.
Who a guy would stare at when walking down the streets.
Who gets over 100 notes whenever they post a new picture.

I’m not one of those girl. I have flaws and insecurities. I do get jealous. My self esteem does get lower when I see a girl prettier than me. I’m not one of those girls. I’m sorry, I’m not good enough.

When I first read this Tumblr post, I was nodding my head to every single sentence, finding some sort of comfort that many girls (this post has 44+k notes) feel the same way too... until I read the last paragraph and got a little pissed.
I’m obviously one of those girls. But I can’t stand it when they continue to wallow in self-pity for the rest of their life and refuse to do anything about it. Bitching and whining won’t make you feel prettier or stronger. It’ll only make you feel more depressed.
Really really can’t stand it when you apologise for not being good enough. Everyone’s good enough, but if you never get your ass up to change the situation of course then you’ll never be good enough.

Then I scrolled through all the notes to see if any girl had some sense to share the same sentiments as me... none of them did. Went to bed a little miffed because I thought some girls were stronger than that.

As I woke up this morning, other girls actually added on!

One girl wrote:

Do you guys really think that basking in your misery is going to transform you into some desirable sex object? Because it’s not. If you want people to think you’re great, you need to think it yourself. Look at me - I’m an ugly fuck, but I’ve got the most beautiful girlfriend ever, and even before that - I did okay in terms of ‘dating’.
Sitting online posting about how ugly you are is not going to result in people begging for your phone number. Get over it!

While another added:

Yeah, sure I’m not that kind of girl, but who gives a shit? What matters most is your heart, if you’re a slutty, proud bitch, there’s no point being pretty at all! We all have flaws, those kind of pretty girls too have their flaws, dont feel sorry for yourself if you’re not that kind of girl, be happy for who you are, that’s all.

That made me think. I used to think pretty girls got a few things easier (in terms of love and sometimes jobs), OK fine I still think so, but then will we reeeeally be happier if we were prettier? Will being pretty solve all our problems and insecurities? I don't think so! I've known many pretty girls who have had issues with their face, skinny girls who have had issues with their bodies (which in both cases, I think is really ridiculous)... so nope don't think that the world would be a happier place if everyone was pretty.
Then if everyone was pretty, no one would truly stand out.
Bottom line: You may be average-looking, but you can continue sitting there whining about your looks, or you can join Pink to raise your glass if you're wrong in all the right ways :D

Actually, even with all these self-help theories, they still don't stop you from desiring to be pretty right?

IKR. I think it's ok to want to be pretty, but it's not ok to be obsessively emo over it and brood over that fact for the rest of your lives.